You’ve Got to Believe Me 你一定要相信我
Are you worrying about how something important to you will turn out？I know the answer.You've got to believe me.
I dreamed that a friend of mine had just gone through a painful breakup with her boyfriend.She felt devastated because she had thought for sure this fellow was the man of her dreams and they would be together for life.Now she was heartbroken and discouraged，and feared to face her future.
In the dream，I was telephoning my friend from two years forward in the future.From that vantage point，I knew what had happened since her breakup.Her future was already history to me.During that time she had met a wonderful man，they had married，and she was very happy.The breakup was of no consequence now；in fact，it put her in a position to meet this fine fellow.
On the telephone，I told her，“Please listen to me.I know this sounds crazy，but I am seeing your life from two years ahead of where you are now.I know what will happen because，from where I am standing，it has already happened.Within the next two years you will meet an awesome man and be happily married.You've got to believe me.”
I awoke from the dream feeling deep bliss and fulfillment.There are many levels and kinds of dreams；this one was an inspirational vision from a higher power.Beyond the message for my friend，I had received a universal lesson.God could call any of us up and say，“Please listen to me.I am standing in your future，and I can tell you with perfect assurance that the thing you are worrying about now is utterly meaningless.Everything is going to turn out all right，and you will have everything you want.You've got to believe me……”
One day when I had just begun to present seminars，I was driving to a program and I began to feel nervous.What if my presentation flopped？What if people did not like me？What if my anxiety undermined my skill？And on and on.Then another voice popped into my head with a profound statement that helps me even now.It noted，“You always get nervous before a program，and the program always turns out great.So why bother worrying？”Instantly I relaxed and let go of my fear.The program was a success，and since that time I have approached my presentations with a sense of knowing that all is well and everything will turn out fine.
At one seminar，a young Jewish woman tearfully told of a painful relationship conflict she was struggling with.She was in love with a Muslim man，but her father forbade her to see him.This created a deep quandary for her，since she could not reconcile her love for this man with her desire to honor her father's wishes and keep harmony in her family.She went on to wrestle with this issue for a long time，and returned to another seminar a year later，still distraught.
Then，several months later，she mailed me a copy of a letter she had written to her father.The letter was a masterful communication filled with honesty，clarity，and compassion.She told her father that she loved him very much and appreciated all that he was to her，but she had to follow her heart and be with the man she loved.As I read the letter，I realized that this woman had finally claimed her power and made a loving stand for her truth.
A year later I received a beautiful photo of her wedding，and a few years later I received another photo of their newborn child.Meanwhile，her father came around to support her.This woman's joyous resolution represents thousands of journeys I have been privy3 to in my seminars.I see so many people stuck，confused，or fearful about what will come next.Eventually they somehow handle their issues，and the universe gives them a hand with the details.I have seen this process so often in so many lives，including my own，that when I offer counseling，I can assure my clients that somehow things will work out.Their job is to get out of the way and let it be.
And not only do things somehow work out，but the process of getting to that point ultimately empowers them more than if the challenging event had not occurred.So every piece of the jigsaw puzzle fits.
A Course in Miracles tells us，“A happy outcome to all things is sure.”That's a big chunk of truth to bite off if you are accustomed to fearing that if you do not control every detail of your life-and perhaps the lives of others-things will fall apart.But when you let go and trust the process，things usually fall together.The Course also tells us that it takes great learning to realize that all events，encounters，and experiences are helpful.
So here I am，two years into your future，telling you that the thing you are worried about will turn out fine，and every step in the journey will be an integral one.You've got to believe me.
你在担心你所看重的一些事情的结局会怎么样吗？我就知道答案，但你一定要相信我。
我梦见我的一个朋友刚刚和她的男友痛苦的分手。她受到很大打击，她曾坚信这个人就是她梦想的男人，他们会一辈子在一起。现在她悲痛欲绝，消沉落寞，害怕面对未来。
在梦里，我在两年后的未来给她打电话。从那种时空角度来说，我了解她自分手后都发生了什么事，她的未来对我来说已是历史。那时候，她遇见了一位很棒的男士，他们结了婚，而且她很幸福。以前的分手对她来说已经不算什么；实际上，要不是分手了，她也不会遇到这么好的男士。
在电话里，我对她说，“请听我说。我知道这听起来很荒唐，但是，我正在目睹着你从现在算起未来两年内的生活。我知道都将发生什么，因为从我所处的位置看，那些都已经发生了。在你随后的两年里，你会遇见一个英俊的男人，并与他幸福的结合。你一定要相信我。”
我从梦中醒来，感到一种深深的幸福和满足。梦分很多层次，很多种，这个梦激励人心，来自于一个更强大的力量体。除了给我朋友的信息，我还获得了更为宽泛和普遍的真理。上帝可能会给我们中的任何一个打电话，说，“请听我说。我在你的未来之中，我有十足的把握向你保证，你现在所担心的事是没有任何意义的。一切都会有好的结局，你会得偿所愿。你一定要相信我……”
在我刚刚开始主持研讨会的时候，一天在开车前往一场活动的途中，我开始感到紧张。如果我主持失败怎么办？如果听众不喜欢我怎么办？如果我太紧张，发挥不出水平，怎么办？等等，等等。这时，我脑中突然出现另一个声音，讲了一段至今都影响和帮助着我的话。它说，“你在每次活动前都会紧张，而每次活动的结果都很不错。所以，你为什么还要担心，自己困扰自己呢？”我立刻放松下来，恐惧也不见了。活动很成功，自从那次起，每次作主持时我都抱着一切都会很好，没有什么可担心的心态。
一次研讨会上，一个年轻的犹太女子含泪讲述了一段让她痛苦挣扎的矛盾冲突。她与一个穆斯林青年倾心相爱，可是她父亲不准她见他。这让她陷入了深深的矛盾之中，进退两难，她在对这名男子的爱和遵从父亲意愿、维持家庭和睦的愿望之间举棋不定，难以取舍。她为这个问题斗争了很长一段时间，一年后再次参加了另一个研讨会，仍然苦恼万状。
后来，几个月后，她寄给我一份她写给父亲的信的复印件。信里很好地表达了她的心意，坦诚、清晰、充满感情。她告诉她父亲，她非常爱他，感激他对她所做的一切，但是她要听从自己的心，和她爱的男人在一起。我读着这封信，意识到这个女子最终宣布了她自己的权力和独立，为她自己所相信的事做出了一个坚定而又不失爱的立场。
一年后，我收到了一张她婚礼的美丽照片，几年后，我收到了一张他们新生孩子的照片。同时，她父亲也转变过来，重新支持她了。这个女人最终快乐的自我救助代表了我所知道的成千上万类似的精神之旅。我看见太多的人陷入痛苦，困惑，或者恐惧下一步会发生的事。不管怎样，他们最终都解决了自己的问题，上天对他们伸出了处理难题的援助之手。我已经看到那么多人经历这样的过程，包括我自己，所以，在我提供建议的时候，我都让顾客确信，无论如何，事情都会得到解决，他们应该减少自己的痛苦，顺其自然。
不仅事情最终会得到解决，而且通向这一结局的过程也会使当事人更加坚强、有力，甚至远远好过于事情没有发生。所以，拼图的每一小块都是有用的，都能在图板上找到自己的位置。
《奇迹课程》告诉我们，“所有的一切肯定都会有好的结局。”如果你生活中并非所有的一切，或者可能还包括其他人的，都在你的掌控之中的话，事情就会变得一团糟。如果你习惯于这样感到害怕和恐惧，那么，这句哲理你肯定难以理解，够你好好琢磨消化的了。但是，如果你真的顺其自然，相信这个过程，事情通常都会向好的方向发展。《奇迹课程》还告诉我们，一个人需要相当多的经历和学习才能真正意识到，所有的事情、邂逅和经历都是有益的。
所以，我在这儿，在你两年后的将来，告诉你，你现在所担心的事不要紧，会有不错的结局，还有，就像拼图的拼板一样，你所走的每一步都将是你人生旅途中不可或缺的一步。你一定要相信我。
译者感言
文章开头有不小的篇幅是关于做梦的叙述，想来作者是由那个梦引出这篇文字的。乍读，一个并不算稀奇的梦，有那么震撼和启迪吗？闭上眼设身想一下，如果在你的现实生活里，你做了和你的一个好朋友有关的这样的梦，深夜醒来，他/她痛苦和幸福的画面还在眼前晃动，余音也犹然在耳，“……你一定要相信我”，你的心不会“感到一种深深的幸福和满足”吗？还是抱有希望让人感到幸福啊！可是，心怀希望固然是好事，但“所有的一切都会有好的结局。”这句话似乎并不那么让人信服。不可能嘛，不然世界上怎么还有那么多悲剧。我想，可以这样理解：第一，作者是一位精神研修学者和心理治疗师，他从自身经验，发出这样的感言。的确我们为一件事焦灼、痛苦，可是很多时候，事情很顺利，并没有怎么样。而我们自己让自己困扰的原因就是缺少希望。即使真的不顺利，光担心、忧虑也于事无补，倒不如让自己轻松、积极些。第二，相信一切都会有好结局的前提是付出最大的努力。如果你已尽了自己最大的努力，可还是没有成功，扼腕叹息，但这种结局是失败的吗？至少你不会后悔，内心也许还会感到充实，积蓄力量，挥动希望的翅膀向下一次挑战出发！想起了中学政治里的那句老话：一颗红心，两手准备。做最坏的打算，但是要保持高昂的情绪和态度，这次不成没关系，我的人生最终肯定会有好的结局！
