登陆注册
16964900000002

第2章 “If You Want to Gather Honey,(2)

He decided to try a different approach. The next time hefound some of the workers not wearing their hard hat, he askedif the hats were uncomfortable or did not fit properly. Then hereminded the men in a pleasant tone of voice that the hat wasdesigned to protect them from injury and suggested that it alwaysbe worn on the job. The result was increased compliance with theregulation with no resentment or emotional upset.

You will find examples of the futility of criticism bristling on athousand pages of history. Take, for example, the famous quarrelbetween Theodore Roosevelt and President Taft—a quarrel thatsplit the Republican party, put Woodrow Wilson in the WhiteHouse, and wrote bold, luminous lines across the First WorldWar and altered the flow of history. Let’s review the facts quickly.

When Theodore Roosevelt stepped out of the White Housein 1908, he supported Taft, who was elected President. Then7 ·

Theodore Roosevelt went off to Africa to shoot lions. When hereturned, he exploded. He denounced Taft for his conservatism,tried to secure the nomination for a third term himself, formedthe Bull Moose party, and all but demolished the G.O.P. In theelection that followed, William Howard Taft and the Republicanparty carried only two states—Vermont and Utah. The mostdisastrous defeat the party had ever known.

Theodore Roosevelt blamed Taft, but did President Taft blamehimself? Of course not, With tears in his eyes, Taft said: “I don’tsee how I could have done any differently from what I have.”

Who was to blame? Roosevelt or Taft? Frankly, I don’t know,and I don’t care. The point I am trying to make is that all ofTheodore Roosevelt’s criticism didn’t persuade Taft that hewas wrong. It merely made Taft strive to justify himself and toreiterate with tears in his eyes: “I don’t see how I could have doneany differently from what I have.”

Or, take the Teapot Dome oil scandal. It kept the newspapersringing with indignation in the early 1920s. It rocked the nation!

Within the memory of living men, nothing like it had everhappened before in American public life. Here are the bare factsof the scandal: Albert B. Fall, secretary of the interior in Harding’scabinet, was entrusted with the leasing of government oil reservesat Elk Hill and Teapot Dome—oil reserves that had been setaside for the future use of the Navy. Did secretary Fall permitcompetitive bidding? No sir. He handed the fat, juicy contractoutright to his friend Edward L. Doheny. And what did Dohenydo? He gave Secretary Fall what he was pleased to call a “loan” ofone hundred thousand dollars. Then, in a high-handed manner,Secretary Fall ordered United States Marines into the district todrive off competitors whose adjacent wells were sapping oil out ofthe Elk Hill reserves. These competitors, driven off their ground at the ends of guns and bayonets, rushed into court—and blewthe lid off the Teapot Dome scandal. A stench arose so vile that itruined the Harding Administration, nauseated an entire nation,threatened to wreck the Republican party, and put Albert B. Fallbehind prison bars.

Fall was condemned viciously—condemned as few men inpublic life have ever been. Did he repent? Never! Years laterHerbert Hoover intimated in a public speech that PresidentHarding’s death had been due to mental anxiety and worrybecause a friend had betrayed him. When Mrs. Fall heard that,she sprang from her chair, she wept, she shook her fists at fateand screamed:“What! Harding betrayed by Fall? No! My husbandnever betrayed anyone. This whole house full of gold would nottempt my husband to do wrong. He is the one who has beenbetrayed and led to the slaughter and crucified.”

There you are; human nature in action, wrongdoers, blamingeverybody but themselves. We are all like that. So when you andI are tempted to criticize someone tomorrow, let’s remember AlCapone, “Two Gun” Crowley and Albert Fall. Let’s realize thatcriticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home.

Let’s realize that the person we are going to correct and condemnwill probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return;or, like the gentle Taft, will say: “I don’t see how I could havedone any differently from what I have.”

On the morning of April 15, 1865, Abraham Lincoln lay dyingin a hall bedroom of a cheap lodging house directly across thestreet from Ford’s Theater, where John Wilkes Booth had shothim. Lincoln’s long body lay stretched diagonally across a saggingbed that was too short for him. A cheap reproduction of RosaBonheur’s famous painting The Horse Fair hung above the bed,and a dismal gas jet flickered yellow light.

As Lincoln lay dying, Secretary of War Stanton said, “Therelies the most perfect ruler of men that the world has ever seen.”

What was the secret of Lincoln’s success in dealing withpeople? I studied the life of Abraham Lincoln for ten years anddevoted all of three years to writing and rewriting a book entitledLincoln the Unknown. I believe I have made as detailed andexhaustive a study of Lincoln’s personality and home life as it ispossible for any being to make. I made a special study of Lincoln’smethod of dealing with people. Did he indulge in criticism? Oh,yes. As a young man in the Pigeon Creek Valley of Indiana, he notonly criticized but he wrote letters and poems ridiculing peopleand dropped these letters on the country roads where they weresure to be found. One of these letters aroused resentments thatburned for a lifetime.

Even after Lincoln had become a practicing lawyer inSpringfield, Illinois, he attacked his opponents openly in letterspublished in the newspapers. But he did this just once too often.

In the autumn of 1842 he ridiculed a vain, pugnacious politicianby the name of James Shields. Lincoln lamned him through ananonymous letter published in Springfield Journal. The town roaredwith laughter. Shields, sensitive and proud, boiled with indignation.

同类推荐
  • 长大不是一个人的事情

    长大不是一个人的事情

    成长的道路总是崎岖不平,然而也乐趣多多,美丽的景色是岁月的馈赠,内心的愈加强大是更加耀眼的收获。本书选取了《美丽英文》杂志温馨治愈的暖心英文故事来阐述成长这件小事,世界的每个角落都是这样走过,在家人的赞许的目光里寻找支点,在朋友的相扶相伴里寻找勇气,在恋人的不离不弃里寻找力量,这样一步一步,完成长大这个蜕变。
  • 人生处处充满选择

    人生处处充满选择

    精选名人经典演讲:本书精选奥巴马、乔布斯、马克伯格、J.K.罗琳等现当代名人演讲,他们现身说法,通俗易懂地讲述了他们在人生中的选择与处世之道,给人以极大的启示和借鉴意义。过去的选择造就了你现在的一切,现在的选择就是你未来的命运。如果你知道去哪儿,全世界都会为你让路。
  • 不畏将来,不念过往(中英)

    不畏将来,不念过往(中英)

    这是一本关于英语阅读学习的书籍。内容包括双语美文、哲理名言、趣味英语知识等,倡导英语“轻学习”的概念,分为“早安,和梦想一起醒来”和“晚安,永远美好的明天”两个部分,选择的内容为哲理小故事和散文,以及早、晚安心语和英语知识的“轻学习”板块,内容活泼、积极向上,或励志或深情,很适合青少年阅读,在阅读过程中还可以轻松学习英语知识,是一本很好的趣味英语学习书籍。
  • 加拿大学生文学读本(第5册)

    加拿大学生文学读本(第5册)

    《西方家庭学校原版教材与经典读本?加拿大学生文学读本(第5册)》由加拿大教育部门编写的教材,分级编写,全套共五本。全书通过趣味而有教育意义的故事,引发孩子们学习语言的兴趣;并向规范、美丽的文学作品过渡,让孩子们掌握语言的艺术,并感受本国的人文历史,带读者步入优美的英语文学世界。书中所选故事不仅有助于提升学生的读写能力,让国内学生依托教材,全面系统地训练英语,同时,通过书中的道德故事、寓言、诗歌、文学作品等,感受加拿大的历史文化,培养良好的阅读兴趣。
热门推荐
  • 终结刺钉

    终结刺钉

    一个少年从荒漠中醒来,发现脑海中多出了莫名的东西............一个光怪陆离的异世界向他打开了大门,开始了他的强者之路...............
  • 要在世上撒点野:拒绝平凡

    要在世上撒点野:拒绝平凡

    人生在世,若没有撒过一点野,就像美食家一辈子没尝过变态辣,终究少了一点滋味……本书是哈尔滨出版社为广大女性读者带来的宝典,是新时代女性不可错过的一本书。书中提出了一些与众不同的生活方式,它们和人们传统的认知有所区别,不是人们习惯的思维方式。它们颠覆了传统中应该颠覆的陈旧观念,打破了一切令你感到不甚愉快的陈规,让你置身反转的世界,身心得到彻底的放松。哈尔滨出版社出版的《要在世上撒点野——拒绝平凡》旨在让你跳出思维的禁锢,撒一点野,拒绝平凡的人生。
  • 超级吞噬

    超级吞噬

    2008年,羽锋开始了他的高三生涯。抑郁的气氛笼罩着整个校园,每个人都冲刺着面对人生的第一个转折点。这是痛苦的开始,还是新世纪的到来?“哈哈,老子才是天下无敌。”羽锋说道。高考的全校第一20岁的亿万富翁无数美女投怀送抱羽锋的一切像我们诉说着一个普通人的传奇。一切无所不能!!!!........欢迎大家观看,你的收藏以及推荐将会是荷包蛋最好的动力!!!
  • 盛世狂尊:腹黑太子的火辣妃

    盛世狂尊:腹黑太子的火辣妃

    她聪明狡诈,他霸道腹黑。她亮闪闪的穿越女,他傲然独尊的大皇子。她一路尽展才华,他总是笑言情事。她大义为君皇死而后已,他小思为爱情虽死犹生。他缠她纠她粘她腻她,她躲他避他玩他戏他。他说她与他是天生的一对,地造的一双,她不跟他恐怕这天都要疯了!她说她与他是十世的仇敌,百世的冤家,如果她跟了他,那这世上即没山也没水了。是吗?当然?彼此狠狠的瞪着:不信试试?试就试,谁怕谁?
  • 原来是美狐啊

    原来是美狐啊

    因为天界的“体验凡人生活计划”,风若惜这只平日里与世无争的小狐仙带着那本完全是误导性质的《完全凡人伪装手册》来到了凡间……想当只狐仙却被陷害下凡,想当低调的小员工却要被裁员,她教训不了玉皇大帝,难道还教训不了一个人事部经理?只是风若惜没有想到这个毒舌、腹黑又抠门的人事部经理萧玉麒竟然天生一双阴阳眼,一眼就看出了她其实就是一只狐狸!可怜她堂堂狐仙大人为了保住这分薪水微薄的工作,不仅要当厕所清洁工、抓鬼天师、私家侦探、专属女佣,还得给经理大人当贴身保镖!
  • 末世之进化时代

    末世之进化时代

    2052年一场绚丽的七彩流行雨改变了整个世界!世界由此进入万物进化时代,这是个伟大的时代,也是人类霸主地位被剁夺的时代。几乎一夜之间所有生物陷入疯狂进化状态,各种新物种如同雨后春伊般涌现……九尾狐……暴雷猩……紫灵虫……万树王……!在世界进化的同时,人类终于找到了独属于自己的进化,基地由此形成!争霸时代由此展开……
  • 苍凉歌

    苍凉歌

    《苍凉歌》20世纪70年代初,西北边陲重镇N市的一场低调简朴的婚礼,牵连出许多人不为人知的过去,两代人的悲欢离合渐浮出水面。
  • 穿越洪荒之我是四不像

    穿越洪荒之我是四不像

    一朝醒来变成了元始天尊的坐骑,四不像。且看俺怎么借助身份,浪过封神西游!求票,求点击,求收藏!
  • 我还是欠你一个答案

    我还是欠你一个答案

    每一个时间段的我们,总有不同的心情,其实只是还没有完全看懂世界而已,看懂之后,我们每个人其实都能无所谓的面对,然后品味世界的幸福
  • 腹黑狼神:王的萌宠

    腹黑狼神:王的萌宠

    她是传说中的天女,为了打破墨鹫族千年来的诅咒,她被自己的父亲亲手送上了神祭台。他是高高在上的狼神,发誓绝不会爱上人类。不想命运的驱使,他却成了她一个小小人类的使者。随着心的悸动,爱的萌生,他身上的死亡诅咒被驱动,尘封的记忆也被唤醒。千年前他爱上了人类,与恶魔签订了契约……