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第68章 LISTEN TO THE VOICE WITHIN(5)

If you have reached the snap-back stage: now is the time.There is no other time for you but now.If you don't do it now,you'll never do it.You have reached your moment of decision!

"There is no way out,there is no way back,there is no other way but through!"

Take the plunge! Pull yourself out! Face whatever you have to face—and get it over with.The longer you delay,the harder it wi1l be.

Decision always magnetizes!

Decision starts an immediate magnetic action in your mind which rearranges the iron filings of your life,reassembles the broken pieces,fits them together into a new fabric,strengthens the weak spots,and gives you new vitality and resolution to do what the "inner voice" dictates.Take direction from your real self within,follow its urgings no matter how difficult it may seem at the moment,ask forgiveness of those you have wronged,clear up all past resentments and hatreds,free your consciousness of past fears and inhibitions,so your mind can become a channel for good thoughts and can begin to help you attract good things to you! Get away forever from David Harum's indecisive: "Yes,an' no,an' mebbe,an' mebbe not!"

This will never get you anywhere.Who wants to live a miserable "yes an' no" and "mebbe an' mebbe not" existence?

"I'd rather make a wrong decision and do something about it than make no decision at all," a successful business man said to me."If I'm on my toes,I can usually tell whether a decision is wrong or not,before it hurts me too much—and out of this wrong decision,I then have the wisdom to make a right one.But if I make no decision at all,I get nowhere."

It takes courage and faith to make many decisions,but the happy,well-integrated man or woman is he or she,who dares to act,without hesitation,on the basis of the best judgment and intuition at the moment.

Joseph Addison is credited with the statement: "The woman that deliberates is lost."

What indecision does!

I am thinking now of a woman who was in love with two men at the same time.Both wanted to marry her and she kept them dangling,unable to make a decision between them,for over a year.Finally she made her choice,but confided to her mother on her wedding day that she feared she had made a mistake.She carried this uncertainty into her marriage,always wondering whether or not she would have been happier with the other man.This "would I or wouldn't I" mental state upset her emotionally and reflected upon her sexual relations with her husband.She became frigid,worrying about the decision she had made,afraid to confess her real feelings to her mate.But one night,in utter exasperation,he exploded: "I wish to hell you had married Bill!” And she impulsively cried out,"I wish the hell I had,too!"

This release of tension,bringing the subject out into the open,helped her to face herself.She realized then that she had been giving herself a fictitious build-up,that her quality of indecision had caused her to divide her emotional feelings between the two men,and if any little thing went wrong in the association between the man she had chosen and herself,she pictured,to salve her own hurt feelings,a perfect relationship existing between herself and the man she had not married.

"I'm sure now that I really love you," she told her husband,"that I didn't make any mistake when something inside told me that you were the one.I'm sorry I've been so silly and juvenile about things—but it's pretty hard to break the habits of a lifetime!"

Make your positive decision now!

If indecision has you in its grip...break this life-time habit.If you don't,you'll be miserable the rest of your life and your percentage of wrong decisions will attract many more wrong conditions to you.

The "voice within" cannot get through to you when you are in an emotional and mental state of indecision.

A preacher relative of mine became disturbed in thought when a young man.His studies led him to doubt certain parts of the Bible.He began to censure himself for teaching what he could no longer believe.This developed a conflict within him,a plaguing wonderment: "Am I doing right or wrong by continuing in the ministry?" Finally he developed asthma and would get attacks just before going into the pulpit on Sunday.It was Nature's way of keeping him from saying what he felt he shouldn't say.His body was reflecting a condition of his mind.He finally retired from the ministry on the plea of ill health,not confessing his religious misgivings even to his wife.For thirty years,this highly intelligent man lived a life of torture.The asthmatic attacks would be most severe at times when he was wrestling with himself over sins of omission and commission."Did I do right or didn't I?"

I had a talk with this relative near the end of his life.He said that he just had to get something off his mind.When he had told me what had been troubling him all these years,he wanted to know if I thought he would be damned for this.I assured him that I thought the God Power in this universe was too big and understanding to condemn or to damn any human being ...that we all made mistakes ...that this was the only way any of us could grow,through mistakes.Then he said to me: "Oh,if I only had my life to live over.I would have left the church and I would have turned to writing and expressed my convictions,honestly,openly,because I realize now,too late,that many men and women had been thinking as I was thinking.But I let fear and indecision and self-condemnation keep me from my real life work!"

Many people,when confronted with two possible courses of action and not sure which is right,try both—usually to their sorrow.No one has been able to go very far in two directions at the same time.You must make a choice,and you can generally make the right choice,if you will let the "voice within" guide you.But it is always tempting to listen to the voice of our emotions,our personal or prejudiced desires—which too often lead us astray.

Shakespeare had his Hamlet say what many of us,in our troubled minds,have said:

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